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Results don’t make you happy…

// August 21st, 2010 // No Comments » // Confidence

I came across this video of Matthew Hussey talking about how results don’t make you happy.

In this video he discusses the difference between Achievement and Fulfilment, and how to be more happy about your life. The biggest thing to take away from this video is when he talks about learning to love the journey (no not the cheesy prog-rock band) as opposed to the end result because you will be significantly happier this way.

Rules of Seduction

// August 10th, 2010 // No Comments » // General

Channel 4 (UK) journeys into the hidden world of pick-up artists or ‘PUA’ – a community of men who’ve developed a sequence of tricks, codes and routines that they claim men can use to seduce any woman.

Andy Yosha was first introduced to PUATraining as a student on ‘The Rules of Seduction’, a short documentary that aired on Channel 4 in the UK. Here you get a glimpse of Andy’s first introduction into the seduction community. The documentary also features Richard La Ruina (Gambler), Kezia Noble, AFC Adam Lyons, Beckster, and David Wygant.

Bobby Rio Daygame Interview

// August 6th, 2010 // No Comments » // Approaching

Bobby Rio recently conducted an interview with Jeremy “London” Soul about Daygame and meeting women in the daytime. Click here to listen to the interview. I think Bobby is only keeping it up for a few days so click the link and listen to it (26 minutes long) before he takes it down.

Daygame

How To Reduce Approach Anxiety In 3 Easy Steps

// August 5th, 2010 // No Comments » // Approach Anxiety

Approach Anxiety

The Best Way To Reduce Approach Anxiety In 3 Easy Steps

Each of us wants things. Many people have objectives for what they need to do or achieve. Some have goals for what properties they wish to possess. Maybe there’s something you want to be or be able to do.

Perhaps you want to reduce your approach anxiety, as an example. You would not be by yourself in wanting that. In reality it’s easy once you learn how. This article can help you to reach your objective and reduce your approach anxiety so it’s easier for you to approach and meet women. To learn how to reduce approach anxiety in three simple and easy steps, simply continue reading…

The 1st step you will need to take is Use the Three Second Rule. This is important because it doesn’t give you chance to feel any nervousness. It’s important to avoid over thinking what you are about it do. Just see her and start waking towards her

Accomplishing this initial step completely and well is important. If you should fail with this then you should expect to have more nervousness when approaching.

Your 2nd step will be Have Something to Say in the Back of Your Mind. With this step you should avoid locking up and not knowing what to say right before you open your mouth as well as having the peace of mind that you have something to fall back on in case you can’t think of something spontaneously.

Your third and final step will be Smile. The main reason this will be significant is the fact that it will put her at ease and make you feel more confident in the moment. What is important for one to avoid is looking tense and uptight. It something I always forget to do, but when I remember to do it it makes a massive difference.

Reduce Approach Anxiety

For the reasons given, it is best to take care to follow each and every step carefully. Be sure to steer clear of the pitfalls and potential problems mentioned. Carefully observe the suggestions above and you ought to have few or no problems.

You are likely to significantly reduce approach anxiety and do it effectively, with maximum rapidity and ease. And you will then enjoy every one of the benefits and rewards that may go with your success!

What the Zahia Dehar Sex Scandal Taught Me About A Celebrities Ability To Attract Women

// July 23rd, 2010 // No Comments » // Attraction

Zahia Dehar

Firstly if you have no idea who Zahia Dehar is let me fill you in. This brief overview was taken from a variety of news outlets.

The summer of shame engulfing French football showed no sign of letting up today as two of the country’s top players were detained by police as part of an investigation into an alleged underage prostitution ring.

Franck Ribéry and Karim Benzema were taken to the headquarters of the Paris police’s vice squad this morning for questioning over suspicions they paid for sex with a girl they knew to be below the age of consent.

The investigation, which in April led to a police raid and subsequent closure of a late-night bar on the Champs Elysées, has focused on the claims of Zahia Dehar, a former prostitute, that she had had sex with both players while still underage.

She has insisted, however, that she did not inform either man she was only 16 – two years younger than the age of consent for sex workers in France.

According to police files Zahia, who’s now 18, began working as a prostitute in March 2008. She made up to £20,000 a month sleeping with rich men who would fly her to destinations like Dubai and put her up in five star hotels.

Zahia Dehar

US rapper Ne-Yo spent one night with Zahia Dehar, a few weeks before the Cannes Film festival. Zahia would

have also worked in the cinema, in particular at the time of the Festival of Cannes 2008, whereas she was old only 16 years.

I find it very interesting that men you would ‘assume’ to be able to get any woman they wanted, AKA rich – good looking celebrities and athletes resort to paying for sex from a prostitute.

Don’t get me wrong she’s a very attractive girl but I would have assumed that being famous would entitle men to get any woman they choose without question. This scandal indicates to me that this is clearly not necessarily the case.

This reminds me of a story I read over at Eric from Approach Anxiety‘s blog about when he met the guys in the rock band Buckcherry.

“Yeah!” he responds, “I meet a lot of girls. I get introduced to a lot of girls. We meet plenty of girls. But it’s really hard for me to walk up to a girl I don’t know.”

So even celebrities struggle to approach girls they aren’t introduced to. A big complaint I hear a lot of guys saying is “If I was famous I’d be able to get a really hot girlfriend“. Well evidentially celebrities struggle with women that don’t approach them just as much as you or I.

Zahia Dehar

Also lets face it you’re only a celebrity if she actually knows who you are otherwise you’re a nobody just like everyone else in her eyes. In the end I think we can see that wanting to be a celebrity to get girls is just a fantasy that guys use to keep themselves from talking to girls they find attractive.

So in the end the only question to ask is: Is Zahia Dehar worth paying $1000 per night for? Personally I don’t think any girl is worth paying for so I’m going to say no.

I’d love to hear your thoughts on this topic so please feel free to leave a comment below this post. Cheers.

Kezia Noble Reveals Some Seduction Secrets

// July 13th, 2010 // No Comments » // Attraction

Kezia Noble

The Daily Star an English tabloid publication recently ran an article on Kezia Noble. I thought all the guys here that aren’t from the UK would appreciate it if I posted it here for you to read.

I honestly don’t understand why every publication makes her pose in a bikini or lingerie. She’s a legitimate dating instructor and from the articles I’ve read and videos I’ve watched actually knows what she’s talking about.

Kezia Noble Reveals Some Seduction Secrets

ASHLEY Cole might have the women flocking around him right now, but sultry brunette Kezia Noble has a few words of advice for the love-cheat football star.

The 27-year-old is a professional pick-up artist who teaches men the art of seducing foxy females.

She got into the job after turning down a group of men who were trying to chat her up in a nightclub and then gave them advice on how to score with the ladies.

A fellow clubber who ran a workshop teaching guys how to pick up women overheard her tips and asked her if she would like to join his team.

Now, four years on, Kezia Noble has worked with everyone from showbiz stars to blokes who want to score at their local boozer. She can tell them instantly how to get any woman they meet to have sex with them that very night. And when it comes to the newly-single Chelsea star, she has a few words of wisdom.

“Ashley Cole might be able to get girls to sleep with him because he a top footballer,” she says. “But none of these girls really like him. Deep down they are laughing at him. His technique is all wrong. Put him somewhere where he is unknown and he would struggle to pull anyone at all.”

Ashley, says Kezia, 27, is typical of British blokes who have “absolutely no idea” when it comes to getting women into the sack.

“British men rely on beer goggles to get laid rather than going for the real quality women,” she says. “Why settle for the easy drunk girl when you can bag the beauty you’ve been eyeing up all night?

“I teach men how to target a woman they fancy and get her to want to go home with them. I don’t care if they are married, a celebrity or a normal bloke in a pub – my techniques never fail.”

But it won’t just be single fellas who’ll be lapping up Kezia’s no-nonsense advice.

A new study yesterday found one in five adults in Britain is in love with someone other than their partner, yet only 6% said they would follow it up.

The research from onepoll.com says that those in loving partnerships can have wandering eyes even though most people believe that falling for someone only happens when you are in an unsuccessful relationship.

It’s often men unhappy with their women who come to her for advice.

Kezia Noble has taught more than 4,000 fellas how to pull.

“I don’t have a degree,” she says. “But as a woman who has been chatted up many times over the years, I know what works and what doesn’t.

“Some men want to know how to convince a girl to have a threesome. Others want to know how to sleep with a stripper.

“I’ve had lots of exes who knew exactly how to keep me interested and I know what works and what doesn’t. I teach only the best moves to my clients.”

So what would Kezia advise to a single celeb like Peter Andre, 37?

“He must get given women’s phone numbers all the time. My first rule on getting a girl’s phone number is to text, not

Kezia Noble

call. After all, us girls are busy, right? Yet all these girls sell out after they’ve slept with him and flog their stories. If he was clever they wouldn’t do that.”

Kezia doesn’t believe in the “sex texting” that has got the likes of Vernon Kay into trouble.

“Sex texts really don’t turn a woman on and they are frankly, quite embarrassing. If Ashley Cole were a builder from Brighton would any girl find that picture of him in his pants a turn-on?

“I advise my clients to send a ‘ping’ text – a short, sharp comment that’ll get an instant reply.”

And what would Kezia say to any bloke with a secret crush on the sexy blonde in the pub?

“Bars are full of gorgeous women standing together with blokes ogling on the sidelines because they are too intimidated to talk to them.

“Be confident, make eye contact and spark a conversation. Whatever you do, don’t stare at her boobs! And instead of flattering her or offering up a cheesy chat-up line, offer a double-sided compliment instead.

“Men will always try to bed women, I’m just teaching them how to play the game. But at the end of the day it’s always the girl’s decision.”

KEZIA NOBLE’S TOP TIPS

Never offer to buy a girl a drink at a bar. Make her earn it first, otherwise she’ll just take the drink and run off. Only offer to buy her one when she starts responding and showing an interest.

Don’t be the nice guy. Nice guys are boring. Play with a woman’s emotions and insecurities and she’ll be putty in your hands.

When talking to a woman you want to pull, look from her eyes to her mouth and then back again. This lets her subconsciously know that you are thinking of her in a sexual way.

Approach her with a clichéd chat-up line, then laugh about it. Try: “If had to rearrange the alphabet, I’d put I next to U.” Then before she can shoot you down, add: “Sorry, I had to try that line to see if it actually works! I’m Chris by the way…”

15 Steps to Becoming a Master Seducer by Kezia Noble is out now. Visit kezia-noble.com

About Kezia Noble

Kezia Noble is 27-year-old native Londoner who must have heard every pick up line in and out of the book. None would work unless there was a connection made.

Introduced to Gamblers techniques in September 2006 she began to attend the PUA training Bootcamps…a true skeptic at first. But when she witnessed the transformation of students, some unable to even hold eye contact with a woman to, by the evening, maintaining conversations with up to 5 woman at once and getting their phone numbers too, she was convinced that this method could work, and the responses from the students weeks later were all positive.

Kezia became more active in the training sessions, as not only an HB helper but also to give feedback and the vital woman’s point of view and now regularly attends the sessions in order to lend her female intuition and advice.

“I enjoy helping and watching the men start off shy and unable to talk well to woman to becoming more confident and intoned by the end of the 2 day session”.

What “Being Yourself” Means

// July 11th, 2010 // No Comments » // Attraction

Alexander Prime is the first official instructor for the worlds #1 Pickup Artist Adam Lyons and a Master Trainer for PUA Training based out of Austin, TX and New York City. He’s also written a really insightful Qualification Guide.

What “Being Yourself” Means

“Just be yourself.” The most common and misunderstood dating advice since the beginning of modern man. Everyone says it but no one understands it. This article will define “being yourself” and help you capitalize on what you already have.

Elle Hartley

Just be yourself is actually great advice but no one understands what it actually means. Being yourself means having your own opinions and not changing your beliefs, attitudes, actions and opinions to please others. Having an opinion, being proud of yourself and sharing your views with the world is an attractive quality that when missing will result in a lonely life.

Anytime you change your opinion to conform to others’ likes, you become less attractive. While it is true that sharing things in common with another person is a great way to start any form of relationship, agreeing for the sake of agreeing will only make you weaker in your mind and in her eyes. People are attracted to others because they add new elements into each other’s lives, not because they agree with everything they say.

Imagine you have a friend that follows you everywhere you go and simply agrees with everything you say adding nothing new into the conversation. While this may be validating at first, the “yes man” will quickly become annoying and eventually be viewed as a burden. There will be no reason to share your opinion with the “yes man” because he will just repeat your likes/dislikes back to you.

A person capable of “being himself” will have opinions and share them with others. He won’t force his opinions on to others but he will share them and be viewed as unique. It is far too common that upon first interaction and even after years of dating that men think pleasing a girl in every way possible and agreeing with everything she says and wants to do will make her more attracted to them.

Example of what not to do:

Guy: I really like tiger bar, the parties are great there! Have you ever been?
Girl: I have but I don’t like tiger bar, I think it smells funny.
Guy: Yeah, your right, tiger bar isn’t that good.

Many relationships end because a man will constantly try to make a girl happy by agreeing with her and doing what she wants. The girl originally liked the guy because he was a unique person and had his own opinions but when he begins to constantly try to please her and agree with her, he becomes like the “yes man” no longer adding any value into the

girl’s life. He went from being a unique person that the girl ALREADY liked to a person he thought the girl would like more when in reality he is encouraging her to find someone new.

If you shouldn’t agree with everything the other person says, should you disagree with everything the other person

Elle Hartley

says?

The answer is simply no.

By disagreeing with everything someone says, you will find it very difficult to build commonalities and thus near impossible to build even friendship. It is important to have a mix of agreement and disagreement. The easiest way to determine when to agree and disagree is by simply stating your actually opinion on the matter. Something to keep in mind, when doing this, you wont click with every girl you meet but that is a good thing. You will be able to eliminate the ones you have nothing in common with and build a stronger and more genuine relationship with those that share more similar views.

Robert Kurzban conducted a study of speed dating to determine whether, complete agreement, complete disagreement or disagree during the first half of the date and agreeing on the second half resulted in the greatest success. The results found that disagreeing during the first half of the date and agreeing during the second half of the date produced a near perfect success. This result can be recreated by having your own opinions and agreeing when you actually agree and disagreeing when your views differ.

Example of what to do:

Girl: Pizza is my favorite food
Guy: Pizza has never really done it for me. It doesn’t even come close to comparing with a steak.
Girl: Pizza is by far the best! Do you like hot chocolate?
Guy: OMG, hot chocolate is amazing! There’s nothing better than a cup of hot chocolate on a cold day to warm you up and make you smile.

When you “just be yourself”, people will respect you for it as opposed to becoming bored when you try to agree with the other person at every possible opportunity. When you can truly be yourself, you will achieve amazing results with minimal effort.

About Alex
Spending the majority of his life attempting to become what he thought society viewed as attractive, Alexander reached his goal only to find frustration and a fading hope of ever becoming genuinely attractive to the opposite sex. For a few years before learning pickup, Alexander would be told he was hot by girls and viewed as a “player” by his friends but this was completely false. Alexander found himself taken under the wings of many of the best around the world. He has mastered the art of club game and social proof, built up a massive social circle of girls any man would kill.

Adam Lyons – So you can get any girl you want. Is it enough?

// July 8th, 2010 // No Comments » // Lifestyle

Adam Lyons posted an interesting video about what to do to stay motivated about 6 months into learning how to get better with women (and people in general). I thought you guys would find it useful, here’s what he had to say about the video:

Today I got a call from a friend, who built up a great social life with girls, he could get any girl he wanted, only to have it all apart when he moved home.

Here’s my thoughts on things you can do to prevent that happening to you!

Crippling Fear Of Rejection

// July 1st, 2010 // No Comments » // Approach Anxiety

I came across this question on a forum I like to visit and thought it would be useful if I answered it here so you all could read it. It concerns how body issues can affect your confidence interacting with others.

Hi, I have a ridiculous fear of being rejected which has hurt me a lot through my life.

Apart from my friends, I’m afraid of being outgoing and friendly to people because I think they’ll see me as creepy and annoying. Although I’ve been following the game for about 6 months now I haven’t had the balls to approach a woman for fear that ill be humiliated.

I’m pretty hairy and got teased alot for it during my high school years and although i knew they were only joking, it still got to me. I think that’s one of the reasons for my insecurity.

Sorry if I’m whining to much but I was wondering what I could do to get rid of this.

Hi there,

The first thing I want to say is you’re probably not as hairy as you imagine yourself to be, children will find any excuse to tease you about something to make you feel bad because that’s the way they are. But if you feel it really is a problem I’d suggest getting a body groomer such as this one and using that on yourself once a week to every two weeks depending on how fast your hair grows. It will take about 10 – 15 minutes to do your chest, legs and arms, possibly even less once you get the hand of using the groomer.

As far as you struggling to be outgoing there’s a common misconception about confidence and how you come to attain it. Most people who lack confidence and are naturally introverted (myself included 3 or 4 years ago) assume that you either are confident or you aren’t like its a light switch that is on or off.

Confidence is actually more like the volume knob on a television, there isn’t just one level you can keep going up and up. You already have confidence in social settings already, you just don’t have a lot of it. This is probably due to you avoiding social interactions where you will be forced to interact with people you don’t already know.

Unfortunately there’s no way to overcome this without you being proactive and pushing yourself into situations that you aren’t used to (AKA interacting with people you don’t know). But the good news is you can do it in such a way that you only feel a tiny bit awkward (due to the newness of the situation).

Think of it this way if I asked you to go and try and talk to a girl and try to get her phone number right now I’ll bet you’d be a bundle of nerves. But what if I’d already got you to talk to 5 other girls previously and had small 30 second conversations with each of them, I’d bet you wouldn’t be as scared of going over to her would you?

Confidence is the act of doing something over and over again until you feel comfortable doing it. So if you want to be confident talking to girls you are going to have to get used to talking to them.

The best way to get started is to go out this week and ask 5 girls for direction to somewhere. Just walk up to them and say “Excuse me. Could you tell me where Starbucks / Barnes and Noble / HMV / Nandos / Chiquitos is, because I’m lost?” let her answer, then thank her and walk away. The good thing about this approach is she’ll really think you’re lost and want to help you and you can stretch your comfort zone as well as getting more confidence interacting with girls by doing this.

The first one will feel really weird but that is just your ego trying to keep you from getting better. Try it and let me know how it goes. You’ll be surprised how much confidence you can gain by just being able to do this.

Cheers!

I Refuse

// June 23rd, 2010 // No Comments » // Confidence

Maren Kate posted a really great article about how to deal with self doubt. Even though she’s written it for her business blog the post itself is ambiguous so the principals can apply to any facet/area of your life. I think you’ll get a lot out of reading this post and it’s quite a short article so it’ll only be a quick read. You should check out her site as well.

I had a particularly frustrating last few days and the nagging harpy of self doubt was starting to whisper into my ear. So I decided that instead of entertaining those fears, those doubts and those nagging questions about my own capabilities as a person I’d just refuse…

And it worked AMAZINGLY!

Maren Kate

So I quickly scribbled down every way I could refuse that would help me grow a person, embrace my dreams and banish the self doubt that tries to derail all extraordinary plans. I wanted to share them with you in hopes that they’ll encourage you to also shoot down your doubt and negative self talk and instead only pay attention to the positive goals and actions that will get you where you want to be.

I REFUSE…

1. I refuse to listen to my doubts, my fears and any negative self talk that goes on in my head.
2. I refuse to worry about the future and instead I will only focus on actively influencing my present.
3. I refuse to not give myself the fighting chance I deserve to do anything and everything I want to in life.
4. I refuse to accept failure as a permanent state and instead only choose to see it as a learning experience.
5. I refuse to entertain thoughts that don’t directly benefit myself, others or the greater good of the world at large.
6. I refuse to accept anything less than my wildest dreams coming true.

7. I refuse to acknowledge the limitations that most people think they have, no matter what the circumstances.

How I do this is when thoughts opposite of what I want in life come up I just simply tell them (sometimes even out loud) “I don’t care and I refuse to acknowledge you”. They’ll try a few more times but then after a while they’ll give up.

This is you training your brain to only bring in positive, goal affirming thoughts and ideas and it will help you exponentially if you really put it to work.

I refused… what can you refuse that will lead to greater success and happiness?