Confidence With Women

How To Sweep A Girl Off Her Feet

// November 4th, 2011 // No Comments » // General

By Gregory Davis (Guest Writer)

If you have just started going on a few dates with a girl, why not impress her with a romantic gesture, which will sweep her off her feet and leave her feeling surprised and deeply touched.

Believe it or not, girls don’t always want to be bought shoes and chocolate, so if you are online, browsing through various girl’s shops, looking for something to buy her while you distract yourself with a few games of Partypoker, why not consider buying her something you can both enjoy, for example, a pair of theatre tickets? It is definitely worth finding out what her favourite show is before you go ahead and book something, This will show her that you are thoughtful and kind. If you have the money to spare, why not book the box seats, so you have some room to yourselves And don’t forget to buy her ice cream in the interval, even if it is ridiculously overpriced.

Alternatively, if you know a quiet park which has a stunning view over the countryside, why not make a secret picnic and surprise her one summer afternoon? Ask her to meet you in a particular spot in the park; as she approaches, she will see that you have laid out a blanket with a hamper full of sandwiches, pink cupcakes, strawberries, chocolate and some wine. Girls love cute, small foods like mini cupcakes with pink frosting. She is sure to think how sweet you have been and will love the surprise.

If you consider yourself a bit of a poet, why not spontaneously send her a card in the post with a poem describing the thoughts that ran through your head from the moment you laid eyes on her. Fill the card with rose petals, so as she opens it, her lap is sprinkled with sweet smelling silky petals.

Adam Lyons Qualification

// July 11th, 2011 // No Comments » // Attraction

Adam Lyons posted three videos detailing how to qualify a women to help build her attraction to you. He also goes into detail describing how to get a more positive response when approaching a women to start a conversation with her. You will also learn how to find out if a girl really does have a boyfriend, or whether she is lying. Learning how to identify what sort of person someone is. Then finally how to get her to invest in you by asking interesting fun questions.

How To Dress Fashionably On A Tight Budget

// June 30th, 2011 // No Comments » // Lifestyle

Daniel explains how to dress fashionable on a tight budget (for example if you are a student). In this video you will learn:
- Understanding what looks best.
- How knowing the correct cut of clothes will save you time & money.
- How to understand what cut of jeans you look best in.
- How accessorising well can make it look like you have a completely new outfit.
- Where to look for cheaper clothes.

Daniel – Fashion Tips For Men

// June 25th, 2011 // No Comments » // Lifestyle

Daniel is the fashion consultant for Kezia Noble’s team as well as his own style company The Rules of Style. Daniel has an expert eye for fashion and great taste in men’s style. He works with the student’s personality and life style, to help them pick the best clothes that will flatter them, whatever size or height, and styles that will be congruent with their character. Here see him give Kezia some basic fashion tips for men.

Dealing with Rejection When the Girl is Part of Your Social Circle

// January 29th, 2011 // 2 Comments » // Attraction

Kezia Noble posted a really great article on her site dealing with what to do if you ask a girl out from your social circle and she says “No”. I know a lot of you guys who read this site worry about this problem so I thought I’d share it so you can remedy the situation if it ever happens to you. Just know that it isn’t the end of the world if she says no to you and it doesn’t mean she won’t say yes if you ask her again in the future.

So she says NO…
And she is in your social circle!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
A lot of guys resist asking out a girl who might be associated with their network of friends or aquaitances. for fear of feeling uncomfortable or embarrassed when everyone finds out. Rejection is one thing, but having it made public amongst people you know adds another dilemma!
Recently a lot of my students have asked me ways in how they can deal with rejection when the girl is in their network of friends, and is someone whom they will most probably have to see again.

Check out the article here.

Take Note of Where You Hang Out.

// January 15th, 2011 // No Comments » // Health

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How to Recover When She’s Ignoring You?

// December 29th, 2010 // No Comments » // Attraction

Rob, I’m really upset man!! I got this girl’s number a few weeks back and was SUPER HOT! My dream girl! But I can’t even get her to write me back a text!! I’ve called, I’ve texted…I don’t know what to do. Please help me bro!

Flakemaster, Canada

Dear Flakemaster (lol),

Man, we’ve all been there man.

ANY guy in this game has had a girl happily hand out her number one minute, but then act as if we’re Bruce Willis in the Sixth Sense when we text or call her.

While losing a certain percentage of girls to “The Cinderella Effect” (my term for when a girl does a complete 180 from the sweet, outgoing girl she was the night you met her) is par for the course of dating success, you *can* occasionally salvage a girl here or there by remaining persistent with the follow up and by saying the right things.

Most guys chalk up a girl’s flaky behavior to a weakness in their game. But this could not be further from the truth since that guy had to have done a great job to get the number in the first place.

A slew of behind-the-scenes factors are at work when a girl goes AWOL. She might be shy, lazy, in a relationship, or a host of other things (some of which you probably can’t even speculate) that causes her to ignore your existence.

But as we all know, no decision a girl makes is ever final so there *is* still hope…

Thus, any up-and-coming ladies’ man should get in the habit of “playing the numbers.” Rather than just throwing in the towel when you don’t get a response after a text or two, keep sporadically hitting her up.

While some of your efforts may continue to fall on deaf ears, sometimes you’ll de-flakify a total hotty. Recently, I had this happen, creating a GREAT MOMEMENT IN TXT HISTORY. Here’s the exact text transcript, word-for-word:

Rob: What are your feelings on having a lovechild??

Babe: Im torn between saying: with me? and, did you get the wrong number? I haven’t heard from you in a while.

Rob: Harhar… A bit of both. I was scrolling thru my phone and remembered you had lovechild potential. What’s up

Babe: Well Im flattered you thought of me. I just got out of class. Your text made me burst out in laughter half way through. How bout you? How are things?

Rob: Haaa you think I’m kidding…I already have a name picked out. Anyway, yeah I agree we should catch up over drinks tomorrow evening

Babe: Depends on what the name is.

Rob: We will name him Math. He will somehow come out Asian.

Babe: I’m not impressed. Sorry.

Rob: That’s perfect actually. I aim to unimpress so you have lowered standards…

Rob: …then when we meet up and I am looking dapper like a 5th grader on picture day, you will find yourself helpless at the whim of my alluring charm

Babe: Uhu…kinda a sketchy game plan. The flaw in it is that I forget what you look like, so I am now expecting a sex bomb waiting for me in front of the bar.

Rob: OK, well… I lost weight since I met you so I’m down to 450 pounds and I’m only missing 6 teeth now so I think you’re in for quiet a treat, Missy

Babe: I’m such a lucky gal. I’ve had 3 kids. Don’t worry, I’m sure you’ll get along with them just great. If you want to meet up for drinks, I’m down. But if you’re looking for love child material, you may be disappointed.

Rob: You’re so hard on yourself – I don’t think you’re going to disappoint me. So yes, let’s get drinks. Are you free at 9?

Babe: Mmm…Friday actually works better for me if that fits your schedule.

Rob: Yeah, that works…look for the 450 pound dude missing his front teeth

Babe: Alright, where should I look for him?

Rob and Babe: (Figure out logistics)

You’re probably wondering, “Okay, Rob, so what happened?”

Glad you asked! The most important thing to remember when running de-flake phone or text game is that you need to get her attention. Merely sending a wimpy text like “Great meeting you 4 months ago!!1 Srsly let’s hang out again!” usually will not work if she’s flaking.

You need to deviate significantly from the norm so that she stops her in her tracks and takes notice.

In the above example, I texted “What are your feelings on having a lovechild??” which is funny yet a little edgy. I actually sent that text out to 4 other flakes that day, none of whom responded.

However, I hooked the one girl who did (evinced by her telling me she “burst out in laughter”). The key to de-flaking by phone and text is to bust out of the heavy artillery…

…a.k.a. “get weird.”

While you may repulse some girls with your weirdness, a percentage will find it funny and/or attractive.
Regardless, if a girl’s not responding anyway, you have nothing to lose by ramping up the funny/sexual/bizarre factor.

However, just because she responds doesn’t mean your job’s done. The fact remains that you’re a guy she initially flaked. If she senses any bitterness, insecurity, or neediness coming from you, it’s game over.

Not only that, but girls will actually prod to see if such feelings exist. She doesn’t remember you from a hole in the wall so while she may find your witty text banter amusing, she has to be sure that if she invests her time in you that you’re not going to chew her out for flaking or turn out to be a total weirdo.

Notice how this girl was prodding me throughout the exchange. Notably, girls will usually bring up two formidable challenges after they initially flaked:

1.) why are you still texting them,
2.) asking you what you look like (because she “forgot”).

I proactively disarmed the first challenge by nonchalantly claiming, “I was scrolling thru my phone and remembered [she] had lovechild potential.” However, the second challenge is a bit more complicated.

I learned my lesson about “I forget what you look like” the hard way after getting burned a few times. Regardless if you’re Derek Zoolander (or have an extra flattering of picture yourself that makes you look as such), mark my words:

*It’s never a good idea to send your picture to a girl.*

That’s because she’s not really saying, “I forget what you look like.” What she’s really saying is, “Are you going to jump through hoops for me?”

Hence, that’s why telling girls “I lost weight so I’m down to 450 pounds and am only missing 6 teeth” is so effective. Humor aside, it basically says to her, “I’m not like every other jackass who’s texting you and trying to prove myself.”

Nowadays, whenever a girl brings up how she “forgot what I looked like” I see it as a fastball to knock out of the park. From there, just remain emotionally detached while keeping the texts humorous and moving the interaction toward a meet up.

Rather than just read about de-flaking girls, I hope you’re inspired to rework some old numbers. Always remember: she gave you her number because she liked you. She wants you to win just as much as you want to win.

But, at the same time, she wants to make sure you’re normal and cool. As long as you keep the parameters of this article in mind, you should have no problem recovering a couple girls who went “Cinderella” on you. Oh and when you meet up with them, tell them the 450-pound guy missing his front teeth says hi.

Now get those hot flakes in your phone!

And if you don’t have numbers to work, you had best click the link below ASAP:

Check out The 4 Elements of Game

Best,

Rob Judge

The Best Jobs for Meeting Girls

// December 14th, 2010 // No Comments » // Lifestyle

Today’s Q&A concerns what jobs are good for meeting women.

QUESTION: After high school me and my best friend graduated and were deemed virgins. It was here I discovered pua and I would share to him my findings. Ridiculed by other guys, we put down the video games and made an oath that we would progress.

1 year later. We’re changing. The books and life’s work of these authors had freed me from the world I was trapped in. I had found my myself making out with girls, something I’ve never done before. My friend was getting dome and even managed to lose his virginity.

2 years later. I can now sense when girls like me or not. I can read “vibes”. my friend is improving and the gap between us is getting greater.

3 years later. I’ve managed to get 1 girl naked in bed but didn’t do anything. My friend is on a entirely different level then me, he bangs on a monthly basis.
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The main differences between us being. He has a job where he’s surrounded by girl co-workers and apparently it’s improved his talking skills drastically. (he works at Chunkys, a movie theater where they serve you food and all). I’m always in the house, I don’t interact with other human beings. So it only makes sense that I feel odd when I’m in open spaces and that people will find me weird. I’m not as advanced as other kids my age due to the fact that “I don’t get out much”. I’ve let my parents are handle too many things for me. I am seen as a “child” to many girls. I am 20 and I am in the mist of creating a plan to get a job for the first time in my life and start doing things for myself.
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I am familiar with the game, but i feel too weird when I’m sober. I need a life, a job, a lifestyle that can accompany my game. I need a job where I am constantly training my social skills. So, what kind of job do you think I can practice these interactions? I’m behind everyone my age! So I’d like one that’s very heavily intensive on these interactions.
- P, USA

MY ANSWER: Good question! I think having a job where you get to interact with plenty of girls everyday will definitely help you improve this aspect of your life because it will give you a chance to practice talking and flirting with them everyday.

From my own experience ( as well as what I’ve observed while going about my day-to-day life these 5 places tend to have a high number of attractive girls aged between 18-25  for you to practise on…

• Bars
• Nightclubs
• Coffee Shops
• Restaurants
• Clothes Shops

The good thing about the above places is you don’t need any qualifications to get a job there, chances are it’ll only be for minimum wage but hey that’s the price you pay for wanting to get some flirting practise in during work though with regards to bars and clubs you could always opt to work there part time at night so you can get a regular 9 – 5 job as well.

Offices also sometimes have a high percentage of attractive girls working there. The office I work in at the moment has about 12 off the top of my head. The reason I didn’t mention offices in the above list is because they can really be hit and miss, the last office I worked in before I got this job only had one girl that was under 30 working there. So it’s not necessarily somewhere I would recommend.

Hope that helps!

Feel free to send me an email if you have any questions or want some advice. I read every single one.

Thanks again for your support! Cheers!

Brandon

Can Everyone Get Good At This?

// November 28th, 2010 // 2 Comments » // General

Today’s Q&A comes from a guy who wants to know if it is impossible for some men to change their situation with women.

Question: What inherent traits would make it easier for someone to become better with girls? Surely not everyone can be good?

My Answer: Why not? How dare anyone say that some people aren’t somehow qualified to find someone special, somehow aren’t genetically or culturally endowed with the seeds or instincts or desires to improve their dating lot in life, or aren’t chosen to connect with other human beings in a way that changes them for the better?

Perhaps we need some guys to be awkward and shy around girls (though I strongly disagree). But it doesn’t have to be you…

Some people want to tell you that your DNA isn’t right, or you’re not from the right background or make enough money. I think that’s narrow-minded (to put it politely, bullshit to be exact).

Don’t let anyone tell you what you can’t do. Only you can do that….

You either approach that cute girl you see walking down the street tomorrow or you don’t, it’s your choice, it’s up to you.

It is 1 month until Christmas, that is plenty of time to be dating a girl or two or even have a girlfriend before Christmas Day. But I can’t do it for you, only you can do it by being proactive and going after what you want in life (to have a special girl).

I’d wish you “Good Luck” but leaving something up to fate is stupid. So instead I’ll say “Happy Approaching.”

Feel free to send me an email if you have any questions or want some advice. I read every single one.

As always thanks for your support! Cheers!

Brandon

Using Approach Anxiety As a Tool

// November 23rd, 2010 // No Comments » // Approach Anxiety

Daygame.com posted a really great article detailing how you can use Approach Anxiety to your advantage when Approaching Women during the daytime. From the article…

You see a really hot girl – you’re about to approach – Suddenly you become aware of your chest tightening, heart pounding, and your feet turn to lead, and you just can’t make yourself move towards her..

Wait a minute! – Ask yourself, would you feel the same anxiety if she was 75 years old, or if it was a fat balding man you had to approach..

Probably not…

If hotter girls = More fear, then the more fear you feel, the more sure you can be that this is the girl you should approach!

That is a great article! Using your own nervousness as a gauge to judge how attracted you are to a girl you see in the street. If you aren’t at least the slightest bit nervous you probably don’t really fancy her. It’s a good way to look at something that most people consider to be a negative and  psychologically turn it on it’s head to make feeling Approach Anxiety a positive.