Confidence With Women

The best way to ask for a girl’s number

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Some guys have no problem talking to girls and find it easy to have an interesting conversation with them but when it comes time to pull the trigger at the end of the interaction and ask an exchange of contact details many men fail to summon up the courage to ask the girl for her phone number. I found with myself that this was almost always down to me not knowing a way to do it without it seeming awkward (and also minimising the chance of rejection).

Recently I have been asked to write an article to detail the best way to ask a girl for her contact details without it being awkward and weird, while at the same time minimising the chance of rejection.

Of all the ways I’ve seen to ask for a number Adam Lyons (http://www.attractionexplained.com/) has by far the best way to get the contact details from a girl. It is simply saying to the girl “What’s the best way of staying in contact with you?“. Now that might not seem too amazing on the surface but if you look behind the meaning of what is being said you will see that it is .

Guy: “What’s the best way of staying in contact with you?”

Girl: “By text”

Guy: “OK what’s your phone number”

Now the reason why this works so well is because you aren’t actually asking for her number, you are asking what the best way to stay in contact with her would be (there is a difference). When she replies she will say one of the following: text, phone, Facebook or email. Take whichever one she suggests.

When you contact her at a later date she will backwards rationalise that she wanted you to contact her. This is because when you asked what was the best way to keep in contact with her, she replied by text, meaning she said that she wanted you to contact her via text. This makes her a lot more likely to reply. It’s very clever isn’t it? That is why I use it and Adam’s a very clever guy for coming up with it.

A lot of guys think that getting a Facebook or an email address is worse than a phone number but in reality it is exactly the same thing, it is no better or worse than getting a phone number so if a girl offers it to you, don’t push for the number just take it.

As good as this method is I’ve found two ways to make it even better so it’s even more rejection proof and solid. The first way is to give a reason as to why you want to stay in touch with her. Two examples of this would be:

Guy: “You know you’re really nice. What’s the best way of staying in contact with you?”

Guy: “What’s the best way of staying in contact with you? because I think you’re really cute”

Giving her a reason for why you want to stay in touch with her will make her considerably more likely to give you her contact details. It works so much better than just saying “Can I have your phone number”

A final tip is to always beep (call for a couple of seconds) the girls phone when you get her number and get her to save your number with your name in her address book (or do it for her). I’ve noticed that this increases your chance of getting a reply when you text her to arrange a date. This is due to the fact that you’re not that guy she met in a bar last night you’re now Brandon that she met last night, there’s more familiarity there thus you are more likely to get a reply.

I hope you’ve enjoyed and found this post useful! As always, comments are welcome and encouraged. Cheers!

- Brandon

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Posted on January 17th, 2010

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