Confidence With Women

How To Sweep A Girl Off Her Feet

// November 4th, 2011 // No Comments » // General

By Gregory Davis (Guest Writer)

If you have just started going on a few dates with a girl, why not impress her with a romantic gesture, which will sweep her off her feet and leave her feeling surprised and deeply touched.

Believe it or not, girls don’t always want to be bought shoes and chocolate, so if you are online, browsing through various girl’s shops, looking for something to buy her while you distract yourself with a few games of Partypoker, why not consider buying her something you can both enjoy, for example, a pair of theatre tickets? It is definitely worth finding out what her favourite show is before you go ahead and book something, This will show her that you are thoughtful and kind. If you have the money to spare, why not book the box seats, so you have some room to yourselves And don’t forget to buy her ice cream in the interval, even if it is ridiculously overpriced.

Alternatively, if you know a quiet park which has a stunning view over the countryside, why not make a secret picnic and surprise her one summer afternoon? Ask her to meet you in a particular spot in the park; as she approaches, she will see that you have laid out a blanket with a hamper full of sandwiches, pink cupcakes, strawberries, chocolate and some wine. Girls love cute, small foods like mini cupcakes with pink frosting. She is sure to think how sweet you have been and will love the surprise.

If you consider yourself a bit of a poet, why not spontaneously send her a card in the post with a poem describing the thoughts that ran through your head from the moment you laid eyes on her. Fill the card with rose petals, so as she opens it, her lap is sprinkled with sweet smelling silky petals.

Can Everyone Get Good At This?

// November 28th, 2010 // 2 Comments » // General

Today’s Q&A comes from a guy who wants to know if it is impossible for some men to change their situation with women.

Question: What inherent traits would make it easier for someone to become better with girls? Surely not everyone can be good?

My Answer: Why not? How dare anyone say that some people aren’t somehow qualified to find someone special, somehow aren’t genetically or culturally endowed with the seeds or instincts or desires to improve their dating lot in life, or aren’t chosen to connect with other human beings in a way that changes them for the better?

Perhaps we need some guys to be awkward and shy around girls (though I strongly disagree). But it doesn’t have to be you…

Some people want to tell you that your DNA isn’t right, or you’re not from the right background or make enough money. I think that’s narrow-minded (to put it politely, bullshit to be exact).

Don’t let anyone tell you what you can’t do. Only you can do that….

You either approach that cute girl you see walking down the street tomorrow or you don’t, it’s your choice, it’s up to you.

It is 1 month until Christmas, that is plenty of time to be dating a girl or two or even have a girlfriend before Christmas Day. But I can’t do it for you, only you can do it by being proactive and going after what you want in life (to have a special girl).

I’d wish you “Good Luck” but leaving something up to fate is stupid. So instead I’ll say “Happy Approaching.”

Feel free to send me an email if you have any questions or want some advice. I read every single one.

As always thanks for your support! Cheers!

Brandon

Learned PUA For 2 Years And Still Not Opening

// November 14th, 2010 // No Comments » // General

Today’s Q&A is from a guy who has been in the community for two years and still hasn’t approached any girls.

QUESTION: Hey, I don’t know what to do any more. It’s been 2 years and 5 months since I discovered PUA and I have been reading shit since then, Mystery Method, Gambler, David DeAngelo, Mehow, RSD. I can’t make myself approach. I have read so many things about approaching fear and how to get over it. Like, look the first week into peoples eyes, then talk to random people, the working staff etc.

I have learned this stuff so fucking long and still, I am frozen when I have to approach. It has gotten so bad lately that I do not have even courage to look people in their eyes any more. I am not a total fuck up socially. When I am in state I can be good. I have had 3 pretty girls, from social circle but still. I can be cocky and funny. It’s hard for me to talk to strangers but if we have some group then it’s much easier to talk because I don’t have the weight on my shoulders to lead the conversation and I can just talk more freely. I can’t get more girls from my social circle because they are as shy as I am or they already have boyfriends. My day to day life is pretty nightmarish, just.. I feel like I am moving through life as the world is static, that I can’t change anything. It’s terrible.

I really don’t know what to do. Starting a conversation with a stranger would be as hard for me as jumping in front of a train..

About me:
I am 21 years old and studying informational technology in university, it’s my final year. I don’t have any girls on my course :S Many girls say I am handsome/cute, stylish, often checking me out (at least it seems to me that they are), I am 187 tall..

MY ANSWER:

One of the unfortunate things about the world we like in is dating isn’t like computer programming. Where in computer programming you can read a book on PHP or C++ and get better at that programming language the same can’t be said for attracting girls. Talking to women is a social skill that needs to be practised a number of times before you start to see an improvement.

All you’ve done with the last two years of your life is waste time reading information that you are never going to use. You’ve also probably confused the hell out of yourself by reading all these conflicting ideas because attracting women isn’t an exact science like the theory of relativity for example, it’s more like chess how there is a clear goal (to win) but there are limitless ways to go about winning. Consequently any crackpot with a computer can dole out dating advice (case in point: even I do it) so there is every conflicting theory under the sun out there floating around on the Internet.

The best thing to do is forget all the shit you’ve read because chances are 90% of it doesn’t work anyway. Pick one of the simpler methods to learn, I recommend either The Principals of Attraction by AFC Adam Lyons or The 4 Elements of Game by Rob Judge. They are the two of the easiest methods to put into practice and because of that they have the highest success rate. A lot of the stuff out on the market these days in ridiculously over complicated which is why most guys who join the community never get anywhere. You don’t need something complicated to get good at something that regular guys can be good at without ever finding the community, we’re biologically programmed to find a partner and mate (not to get too scientific) just like ever other animal on the planet. Keep things simple.

The best advice I can give you is start small. Just concentrate on getting over your approach anxiety by asking people for directions or the time. Once you can do that start approaching girls properly. Get to the point where you can stay in conversation with them for a minute or two then get her phone number. All that you have to do then is set up a date.

You aren’t going to make any headway unless you go out and start actually talking to girls. The more girls you talk to the better you’ll get.

If you can’t even manage that you may want to consider giving Hypnosis or something like that a try to see if that can remove this mental block that prevents you from approaching girls. Good luck!

Feel free to send me an email if you have any questions or want some advice. I read every single one.

Thanks again for your support! Cheers!

Brandon

The Best Halloween Costume Idea For Guys

// October 29th, 2010 // 4 Comments » // General

Last Halloween I tried out Brad Jacksons idea for the best Halloween costume for guys to wear. I was extremely sceptical at first but decided to give it a try because I believe in experimentation so I’ll give pretty much anything a go to see if it works (plus it seemed like a fun idea). The good news is it works really, really well!

His idea is to create a Facebook costume, if you haven’t watched his video go here to see it. You can see a photo of my attempt at it below from the day after Halloween (Click to see a larger version of the image).

In fact it worked so well I then had to get people to write on the back because the front got so full (click the image for the bigger version).

So I’ll bet the question you’re wondering now is: Does it actually get girls to approach you?

To answer your question I ended up getting 1 girls phone number and 5 girls Facebooks, I got more but I couldn’t read what the girls had written the day after. All of that without having to do a single approach that night, with every single girl approaching me.

If you are stuck for a costume to wear this Halloween you could do a lot worse than giving Brads idea a try. It’s the most fun costume I’ve ever worn by a mile. I got loads of compliments on it because everyone who saw it thought it was a really creative idea.

I think it will be really good learning experience for guys reading this who have severe Approach Anxiety. The girls will approach you and you’ll see that they are normal friendly people like you and I, so there’s nothing to be anxious about.

Happy Halloween!

Brandon.

P.s You didn’t think I was going to let you go without posting this did you??? You did… how naive

If that doesn’t make you want to go out and talk to some girl I don’t know what will.

Social Rockstar’s 1st Birthday

// October 18th, 2010 // No Comments » // General

Hey There,

I’m really happy to announce that we are one year old today!

I honestly never envisioned the site would get this big so thanks for your continued support.

When I started the site it was just a way for me to put my thoughts and information down on some sort of medium to help me crystallise them in my mind.

If you are one of the 40,500+ guys who have read this site (you’re obviously one of them because you are reading this :p) thank you you’ll never know how much it means to me.

If you want to stay up to date with new articles please subscribe to my RSS feed: http://feeds.feedburner.com/SocialRockstar

Please follow me on Twitter to keep updated: http://www.twitter.com/social_rockstar

Thanks again for your support over the last year!Here’s to another successful year.

Cheers!

Brandon

50 Subconscious Signs That a Girl Likes You?

// October 16th, 2010 // 1 Comment » // General

Let me ask you a question. How Can You Tell When A Girl Likes You?

From the average male point of view, girls are often far too subtle and indirect, or just plain confusing when revealing their romantic interest (unless you happen to be incredibly good-looking and loaded with cash, in which case they call you).

And yes, girls often send mixed messages because they’re not sure of what’s going on inside their own heads. So I’ve compiled a list of some of the 50  most common signs a girl sends  when she is interested in you (But there are litterally hundreds of signs).

What are some subconscious signs that a girl likes you?

1. She re-initiates conversations when you stop talking
2. She giggles
3. She touches you
4. She tries to get rapport and build comfort with you
5. She looks back and glances at you repeatedly every minute or so
6. She tosses her hair (to see if you will look)
7. If eye contact happens from a distance, she holds it for a second
8. She smiles at you
9. She interrupts your conversation from nearby or laughs at something you said
10. She stands nearby (proximity)
11. She bumps into you “accidentally” to try and start a conversation
12. While walking by, she turns her body toward you or brushes against you
13. She says something to her friend and they both giggle
14. She says something to her friend and they both look at you
15. She asks you for a light or the time or in any way initiates a conversation
16. While you’re talking to her group, she is particularly talkative (to get your attention)
17. She asks you what your name is
18. She asks you your age
19. She asks where you live
20. She asks what you do for a living
21. She compliments you
22. She is playful and tries to challenge you
23. She’s disagreeing but laughing
24. She starts trying to prove herself to you
25. She’s punching your arm but laughing
26. She uses nicknames for you
27. She plays with her hair while talking to you
28. When she is sitting next to you her leg touches yours
29. She stands in your personal space
30. She repeatedly touches you in any way
31. She asks if you have a girlfriend
32. If you get out your phone to read a text message you catch her looking at it to see if it’s a girl texting you
33. She mentions your girlfriend without knowing if you actually have one
34. When she has to go to the bathroom, she comes back
35. She holds eye contact for longer periods of time when she speaks with you
36. She avoids mentioning her boyfriend
37. If it comes up that you like something, she mentions that she likes it, too, or needs someone to show her how to do it
38. When she says or does something, she looks at you to see your reaction
39. She looks at you from the side, to hide the fact that she’s looking
40. She introduces you to friends
41. She buys you a drink
42. She calls you a player or a heart breaker
43. On her way out, she re-approaches you to tell you that she is leaving (Get her number)
44. On your way out, she asks you where you are going (Invite her or get her number)
45. She returns your calls / answers your texts
46. She invents reasons to be near you, interact with you, or have isolation with you

The 4 Most Important Sign Of Interest

• She re-initiates conversation when you stop talking
• She giggles
• She touches you
• She tries to get rapport and build comfort with you

Vote for the top PUA of 2010

// September 18th, 2010 // No Comments » // General

You can head over here to vote for your favourite pua.

Who do you think was the #1 PUA of 2010?

Go here and click on the Awards section to cast your vote.

If you were wondering I voted for Adam Lyons and Rob Judge

TalkToHer (iPhone App)

// September 7th, 2010 // No Comments » // General

I got an email about a new iPhone app called TalkToHer the other day, I thought those of you that struggle with thinking up something to say to start a conversation with a woman might find this app useful.

Talk To Her is an iPhone application that helps you to start conversations with people you don’t know.
You can find out more over at the official site: http://lineoftheday.com/talktoher

Do you see that cutie who looks like she’s having a good time? What should you say to her? Normally this is the time where you’d go to the bar, gulp down your beer and start waiting to order another. Now, for half the price of that beer, you can browse thousands of suggestions for what to say.

When I started studying pickup, practice was king. But then a couple of my favourite bloggers admitted that practising too much without getting advice could actually be bad.

Based on this idea and many others, I have created an iPhone app that interfaces with a web site. The goal of the app is to eliminate hesitation by quickly providing openers. There are also confidence-building exercises and conversation tips available for moments when you’re not in the field.

Talk To Her will probably install on your iPhone faster than the bartender would get you that next round anyway. It’s a simple app because you only need to use it for 5 seconds at a time. Nonetheless, it offers tips and exercises from some of the best teachers on the web. Previously, the best way to get this info was to shell out hundreds for one of their special programs. Now it’s on your phone inside of 3 bucks.

Rules of Seduction

// August 10th, 2010 // No Comments » // General

Channel 4 (UK) journeys into the hidden world of pick-up artists or ‘PUA’ – a community of men who’ve developed a sequence of tricks, codes and routines that they claim men can use to seduce any woman.

Andy Yosha was first introduced to PUATraining as a student on ‘The Rules of Seduction’, a short documentary that aired on Channel 4 in the UK. Here you get a glimpse of Andy’s first introduction into the seduction community. The documentary also features Richard La Ruina (Gambler), Kezia Noble, AFC Adam Lyons, Beckster, and David Wygant.

What is Your Biggest Turn-Off in a Girl?

// June 18th, 2010 // 2 Comments » // General

Bobby Rio recently wrote a post about what turns him off women. I thought it was an interesting idea so I thought I’d do it as well. Please feel free leave yours in the comments.

1) Girls that are boring when they aren’t drunk.

I’ve met a lot of girls in my time that are really fun when you meet them in a club when they’ve got a few drinks inside them but once you meet them sober they are the most boring people on earth.

Believe it or not quite a lot of very attractive girls are very boring when they haven’t had 3 or 4 drinks to loosen them up socially. So never kid yourself into believing she’s out of your league.

Drunk Girls Kissing

2) Girls that do drugs.

This is an immediate deal killer for me. I was dating a girl a while back who I quite liked but after we’d been seeing each other for a week or two I found out that she liked to do lines of coke on nights out. Suffice to say I ended it right there.

She was really pretty and fun to be around BUT it’s important to have standards and if you make a point of not associating yourself with people who do drugs, why should you make exceptions for her just because she was attractive? The short answer is you shouldn’t, so don’t.

3) Girls with those bright orange fake/skin tans (think Oompa Loompa skin tone)

I’ve yet to see one with matching green hair but we probably shouldn’t rule out the possibility of one or two being out there. I live in a town that seems to be the capital of crappy orange fake tans (is the name Oompa-Loompa-Ville taken???) so I meet a lot of these types of girls when I’m out at night that I’m instantly put off by unfortunately.
“I don’t like the look of it!”