Hello I'm Brandon. No, I'm not amazing with women, but I do better than the average guy. I can teach you how to get more confidence with women. So I'm here to show you what I’ve learned…
// June 30th, 2011 // No Comments » // Lifestyle
Daniel explains how to dress fashionable on a tight budget (for example if you are a student). In this video you will learn:
- Understanding what looks best.
- How knowing the correct cut of clothes will save you time & money.
- How to understand what cut of jeans you look best in.
- How accessorising well can make it look like you have a completely new outfit.
- Where to look for cheaper clothes.
// June 25th, 2011 // No Comments » // Lifestyle
Daniel is the fashion consultant for Kezia Noble’s team as well as his own style company The Rules of Style. Daniel has an expert eye for fashion and great taste in men’s style. He works with the student’s personality and life style, to help them pick the best clothes that will flatter them, whatever size or height, and styles that will be congruent with their character. Here see him give Kezia some basic fashion tips for men.
// December 14th, 2010 // No Comments » // Lifestyle
Today’s Q&A concerns what jobs are good for meeting women.
QUESTION: After high school me and my best friend graduated and were deemed virgins. It was here I discovered pua and I would share to him my findings. Ridiculed by other guys, we put down the video games and made an oath that we would progress.
1 year later. We’re changing. The books and life’s work of these authors had freed me from the world I was trapped in. I had found my myself making out with girls, something I’ve never done before. My friend was getting dome and even managed to lose his virginity.
2 years later. I can now sense when girls like me or not. I can read “vibes”. my friend is improving and the gap between us is getting greater.
3 years later. I’ve managed to get 1 girl naked in bed but didn’t do anything. My friend is on a entirely different level then me, he bangs on a monthly basis.
——————————The main differences between us being. He has a job where he’s surrounded by girl co-workers and apparently it’s improved his talking skills drastically. (he works at Chunkys, a movie theater where they serve you food and all). I’m always in the house, I don’t interact with other human beings. So it only makes sense that I feel odd when I’m in open spaces and that people will find me weird. I’m not as advanced as other kids my age due to the fact that “I don’t get out much”. I’ve let my parents are handle too many things for me. I am seen as a “child” to many girls. I am 20 and I am in the mist of creating a plan to get a job for the first time in my life and start doing things for myself.
———————————I am familiar with the game, but i feel too weird when I’m sober. I need a life, a job, a lifestyle that can accompany my game. I need a job where I am constantly training my social skills. So, what kind of job do you think I can practice these interactions? I’m behind everyone my age! So I’d like one that’s very heavily intensive on these interactions.
- P, USA
MY ANSWER: Good question! I think having a job where you get to interact with plenty of girls everyday will 
definitely help you improve this aspect of your life because it will give you a chance to practice talking and flirting with them everyday.
From my own experience ( as well as what I’ve observed while going about my day-to-day life these 5 places tend to have a high number of attractive girls aged between 18-25 for you to practise on…
The good thing about the above places is you don’t need any qualifications to get a job there, chances are it’ll only be for minimum wage but hey that’s the price you pay for wanting to get some flirting practise in during work 
though with regards to bars and clubs you could always opt to work there part time at night so you can get a regular 9 – 5 job as well.
Offices also sometimes have a high percentage of attractive girls working there. The office I work in at the moment has about 12 off the top of my head. The reason I didn’t mention offices in the above list is because they can really be hit and miss, the last office I worked in before I got this job only had one girl that was under 30 working there. So it’s not necessarily somewhere I would recommend.
Hope that helps!
Feel free to send me an email if you have any questions or want some advice. I read every single one.
Thanks again for your support! Cheers!
Brandon
// October 22nd, 2010 // 2 Comments » // Lifestyle
If you perform a Google search for Men’s Dating Advice you will get an abundance of results all with varying opinions and strategies for how to perform better with the opposite sex. But how do you know that the advice being given is any good, or even that it won’t make you even worse than you already are? The good news is I’ve sifted through the hundreds of blogs out there and presented you with the Top 3 Bloggers in the Dating Industry so you don’t have to.
The reason I’ve chosen these three guys is because I know the advice they give is good due to me attracting girls in similar ways to what they teach. So you can rest assured that what they teach is good. Without further ado…
Rob Judge is a writer and dating instructor in New York City. Themes that resonate in both his teaching and writing are masculinity, genuineness, rational self-interest, and general awesomeness.
These days he splits his time between nerd activities like writing, reading, and jogging and awesome activities like aggressive dating, aggressive teaching, and aggressive aggressiveness.
On a rainy day, you can find him sipping coffee while writing dating articles or bizarre fiction in a Starbucks near you.
To examine what exactly that choice means, consider the last time you didn’t approach an attractive woman. What stopped you? Regardless of your reason or excuse, you don’t know anything for sure. Whether she looked busy, looked like she might have a boyfriend, or she just looked mean…or maybe you felt you didn’t look appropriate, knew the right line, or had enough “field experience.” Regardless, you’re only guessing. You’re living in fantasy.
Admit it: you cannot tell yourself with certainty that anything your fear made you believe is true or not. You’re not living your life in reality. You’re literally living a lie—and that lie will keep you in a lonely, isolated fantasy land until you die if you don’t realize it.
So realize it right now: you have a choice. That choice is whether you’re committed to truth, or imprisoned by the fantasies in your head.
By now, most red-blooded men would be chanting, “I’m going to live in reality, damn it!” without really knowing what that entails. Living in a reality means accepting the truth for what it is: you’ll get some girls, get rejected by others, and everything in between. More importantly, you’ll earn the private truth of every approach you make—whether it only last 2 seconds or an entire lifetime.
You’ll learn the truth about her, the truth about you, the truth about you and her together—or apart. A unique truth is waiting for you with every girl you approach, but you have to be man enough to accept it, to want it, to crave it. You have to “LOVE putting YOUR face in front of a super hot girl and not knowing how the chips may fall.”
You may fail. You may succeed. But you’ll get the truth, every time.
A selection of Rob’s best blog posts:
Voted least likely to ever get a girlfriend in school by his classmates aged 15. Adam Lyons decided to try his best to improve his love life be trying to become more attractive, and understand the psychology of why we get attracted to others. For 11 years he went by largely unsuccessful falling into a couple of relationships and spending most of the time completely perplexed by the opposite sex.
In the Summer of 2006 one of his best friends handed him a copy of a book called “the game” by Neil Strauss, with the words; “Read this book, you’ll take to it like a duck to water” Since then Adam has become known as one of the worlds leading authorities on attraction.
In short we learn the fear through a number of negative experiences and then reinforce them by not doing anything about it. The bodies natural reaction towards a fearful situation is the feeling we associate with approach anxiety or the fear of the approach. The way to overcome this is to reverse the learning.
All of the common problems detailed above can be directly related to either “magical thinking” in the form of a false belief that failure is almost certain due to some form of connection to a previous situation that failed. Or pure fear learnt and reinforced by not approaching. These are both forms of self fulfilled prophecy i.e. Unless you actively do something to fix it they will continue to support themselves. The good news is that this problem is far from unfixable.
The bad news is that it does take time. The easiest way to fix this is to actually go out and meet new people. The problem is that when you do this, any negative experience you receive is likely to reinforce the previous attitude or fear you had before. As I’ve mentioned before one of the easiest ways to get around this is to simply meet people for the sake of meeting people.
Most of us are actually more than happy to talk to other people, especially on boring long journeys, or when waiting in a long queue. Get used to talking to absolutely everybody, male or female, young and old. This should help you generate a great deal of positive responses to your approaches and help curb some of those negative connections.
A selection of Adam’s best video blogs
Bobby Rio is one of the founders of TSB Magazine. He tends to write about what is on his mind so you’ll find a mix of self development, social dynamics and dating articles/experiences on his website.
He went from being afraid of talking to women through trail and error to being able to approach and attract them naturally with ease.
I remember when I was first learning how to talk to women, I was deathly afraid of small talk. All of my mentors had warned me not to get stuck in boring small talk. So I steered clear of it.
Because of my reluctance to make small talk with women, I would instead, have long, intense deep conversations with them. Which almost always ended up with me in the friend zone.
I would create way too much rapport with women, and I would be completely afraid to break it. This continually lead to me wasting hours talking to a girl, without ever creating one drop of sexual desire.
After watching a bunch of my more ‘natural’ friends talk to women, I began to notice something that caught my attention. The friends of mine who were successful with women, were almost always using small talk to create attraction.
Except their small talk was anything but boring. It was fun, amusing, flirtatious, and exciting. And the women were eating it up.
Yes, these guys had mastered the art of small talk.
A selection of Bobby’s best blog posts
// September 30th, 2010 // No Comments » // Lifestyle
If you’ve read the 4-Hour Workweek by Tim Ferris you already know what an amazing writer he is. And you’ll be just as excited to read his new book as I am!
Thinner, bigger, faster, stronger… which 150 pages will you read?
Is it possible to:
Reach your genetic potential in 6 months?
Sleep 2 hours per day and perform better than on 8 hours?
Lose more fat than a marathoner by bingeing?
Indeed, and much more. This is not just another diet and fitness book.
The 4-Hour Body is the result of an obsessive quest, spanning more than a decade, to hack the human body. It contains the collective wisdom of hundreds of elite athletes, dozens of MDs, and thousands of hours of jaw-dropping personal experimentation. From Olympic training centers to black-market laboratories, from Silicon Valley to South Africa, Tim Ferriss, the #1 New York Times bestselling author of The 4-Hour Workweek, fixated on one life-changing question:
For all things physical, what are the tiniest changes that produce the biggest results?
Thousands of tests later, this book contains the answers for both men and women.
From the gym to the bedroom, it’s all here, and it all works.
And that’s just the tip of the iceberg. There are more than 50 topics covered, all with real-world experiments, many including more than 200 test subjects.
You don’t need better genetics or more discipline. You need immediate results that compel you to continue.
That’s exactly what The 4-Hour Body delivers.
Tim Ferris
TIMOTHY FERRISS, nominated as one of Fast Company’s “Most Innovative Business People of 2007,” is author of the #1 New York Times, Wall Street Journal, and BusinessWeek bestseller, The 4-Hour Workweek, which has been published in 35 languages.
Wired magazine has called Tim “The Superman of Silicon Valley” for his manipulation of the human body. He is a tango world record holder, former national kickboxing champion (Sanshou), guest lecturer at Princeton University, and faculty member at Singularity University, based at NASA Ames Research Center.
When not acting as a human guinea pig, Tim enjoys speaking to organizations ranging from Nike to the Harvard School of Public Health.
// July 8th, 2010 // No Comments » // Lifestyle
Adam Lyons posted an interesting video about what to do to stay motivated about 6 months into learning how to get better with women (and people in general). I thought you guys would find it useful, here’s what he had to say about the video:
Today I got a call from a friend, who built up a great social life with girls, he could get any girl he wanted, only to have it all apart when he moved home.
Here’s my thoughts on things you can do to prevent that happening to you!
// June 1st, 2010 // No Comments » // Lifestyle
If you follow me on Twitter or Tumblr you will know that I occasionally moan about the fact that I don’t enjoy my job and I would rather do this website full time as a career. But when I sit down and think about it I actually have a pretty good life. It’s really easy to have a half empty glass and always focus on the negative aspects of your own life and complain about the things you don’t have (I have some friends that do this all the time)
“I’m not rich”
“I don’t have a girlfriend”
“I’m all alone”
“I hate my job”
“I’m not smart”
“I’m not as confident as that guy”
“I’m not handsome”
“I’m Ginger”
At the end of the day procrastination is going to get you no where (It didn’t get me anywhere making myself feel bad for pretty much the entirety of the first 18 years of my life). It’s better to focus on the positives in your life, it will make you much more attractive to other people if you are always upbeat than if you are on a permanent downer.
It is hard to be positive sometimes, it is especially for me at the moment with some stuff going on in my personal life. But you have to keep picking yourself up, dusting yourself off and carrying on.
The best way to be positive in a difficult situation is to take something negative you say to yourself and turn it into some positive self talk. For example take “I don’t have a girlfriend” instead of saying that say “At least I don’t have a miserable controlling girlfriend, life would be a lot worse”.
If things aren’t going your way keep going even when you feel like you want to throw in the towel because you’ve had enough of failure. Usually that’s the point where you are really close to success.
Remember: Giving Up Isn’t An Option
You can begin RIGHT NOW by learning the mindset and philosophy that’ll give you the best chance to win EVERY TIME
Get your dating life HANDLED right now with “The 4 Elements of Game”
// May 10th, 2010 // No Comments » // Lifestyle
Johnny Dzubak posted a really good article on long – game (getting social proof and status in the venue to build a lifestyle that gives you a much better chance of getting women without as much effort). I agree with everything he’s put but I’d also like to add that getting in with the DJ’s (if the venue has a DJ) can be the most powerful thing you can do to gain status quickly.
Also there will be 2 to 5 girls that go to the venue every week. They will probably know a high percentage of the other regulars (especially if they are attractive), so being friends with these girls will open up the potential to grow your status and social circle in that venue exponentially, because they will introduce you to other girls and other guys.
Lots of guys wouldn’t want to be friends with these girls they would want to try and game them. But let me ask you a question: If you could be friends with one attractive girl and have her introduce you to 9 of her attractive friends would you do it? or would you rather try and get that one girl?
In the movie “Colors,” Robert Duvall’s character is an older cop that has to deal with a younger cop played by Sean Penn. Sean Penn’s character is brash; wants to bust everyone, and is a little hot headed. Robert Duvall begins to tell him the story of two bulls sitting on a grassy hill, overlooking a herd of cattle. The young bull looks up at the papa bull and says, “Hey pop. Why don’t we run down there and fuck one of those bulls?” Papa bull laughs at the young bull and says, “Hey, why don’t we walk down there and fuck all those bulls?”
In the movie, Robert Duvall is a focused and precise cop. The movie is based on the duo getting in touch with gangs and earning some respect from each other while finding information on the bigger criminal elements in Los Angeles. Sean Penn’s hot headed character keeps undoing the work that the other cops had put in to get the respect of some of the street thugs.
What does this have to do with meeting women? The rules are the same. You can walk into a bar with your banter guns blazing, high fiving everyone, being extra social, messing with every girl there and getting whatever numbers you can. You call all of them the next day and hope that a few of them will pick up the phone.
Alternatively, you can walk into the bar, build value for ourselves, get to know the staff and regulars and allow everyone to feel comfortable with you. This way when you are talking to the women you are interested in, you will have an easier time connecting and making the most out of your interactions.
A gentleman’s game is a patient one. It’s one thing when you are practising getting comfortable with women or just in town for the weekend. You want to go through a high percentage of women looking for girls who are down for a good time. Burning the place down (figuratively) might be a good idea, but if you live in a small area or frequent certain venues, you might want to take it a bit slower. It really does not take too much energy to go to a place a few times to meet the staff, chat up a few locals and get yourself in with the place.
Once you are in, you can really do some damage. You won’t have to be a high energy crazy dude all night to attract women. You can sit back at the bar and introduce yourself to whatever cute girl slides up next to you. This is ideal if you go out by yourself. Chatting up a couple girls who order drinks next to you can quickly transition to you being included in their group or leaving quietly together to do something a little more intimate.
You to can think of it as if you were undercover, penetrating the secret lives of the locals; getting in and meeting everyone, getting invited to some fun events and making new friends. I have moved quite a bit and have had to start over several times in my life. It can be a painful experience meeting new friends to hang out with if you go about it the wrong way. It can also be a piece of cake if you use a more patient approach with the tactics and mindsets that we teach at The Art Of Charm.
Here are a few suggestions:
1. Find a good spot to go to. Look for a place where you would feel comfortable, with the music that you like. What is the crowd like? Do cute girls go there?
2. Meet the staff. They run the place and know who’s who. Do not become a high maintenance customer. That’s the kiss of death.
3. Meet the locals and regulars. These people will always be there and will get special treatment from the staff. Make sure they see you, and always be respectful and positive with them.
4. Be seen. Go there regularly and tip well.
5. Once you are in, start making your moves!
// April 26th, 2010 // No Comments » // Lifestyle
Part of a live seminar discussing the material from http://www.practicalpickup.com/
Professional PUA Entropy discusses Lifestyle and how it’s the foundation of meeting and seducing women.
// March 28th, 2010 // 13 Comments » // Lifestyle
Gambler (Richard La Ruina) posted a new video entitled Lifestyle Seduction Blueprint on how to use social proof to get girls to compete for your attention without you having to do any work.
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