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When to give up on a girl?

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I saw this question on a shyness forum I read occasionally. I decided to give my thoughts on it. As always this is just my personal opinion on the matter and shouldn’t be taken as gospel.

When to give up on a girl?

Let’s say you’re in the initial stages of pursuing a girl. There’s definitely interest on her part, but she’s putting up a lot of obstacles (busy, takes a long time to respond, etc). How do you decide her flakiness has gone too far and that you should just walk away? Further, how do you let her know her behaviour isn’t cool, without being a total spaz about it?

I realize every situation is different, but are there some glaring warning signs that a girl’s flakiness isn’t worth the effort and you should just move on?

My Answer: To be honest I think its better to have plenty of options with girls so if one flakes you can always go after another girl and maybe come back to this one down the road. I understand this is easier said than done when you are just starting out (because it was for me especially when I met a girl I really liked). It really just requires you to be more proactive with regards to talking and socialising  with women. You need to get out of the house so you give yourself a better chance of meeting someone of the opposite sex.

With regards to text messaging I’d send her a text message the evening after getting her number (unless it’s a Friday or Saturday) so she still remembers who you are. If she doesn’t reply wait a few days and then text her again. If she doesn’t reply to that I’d leave it or at least leave it for a while.

Dharam from Pua Training wrote a really good guide on follow up game (what to do after you’ve got her number) that I think you might find useful, download it here, right click and choose “save target as”.

Posted on December 30th, 2009

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