Confidence With Women

Secret places to meet girls

// April 3rd, 2010 // No Comments » // General

Amanda Lyons shares some of her insights into where to meet a lot of girls with very little competition from other men!

How To Get Started With Pua

// March 2nd, 2010 // No Comments » // Opening

I’m going to assume that if you are reading this article you’ve just discovered the community (or read The Game) and are wondering the best way to get started. By reading this article and following the tips I lay out you will shave between 6 months and a year off your learning curve. If you apply these tips you will see a dramatic improvement in the next 3 months. If you don’t I’ll personally let you come round to my house and beat me up (and I won’t even fight back ), that is how sure I am that the following eight tips work if you apply them all properly and consistently.

1) Start talking to more people.

Men, Women, Children (well maybe not children). Young and old. You will get more comfortable talking to strangers which will make you more comfortable in general interacting with people. Being social is like a muscle you need to regularly practice to be good at it. Talk to people waiting in line with you, talk to people at work, ask people for the time, ask where subway is etc etc.

2) Make friends with 3-5 girls

Making friends with girls and spending time with them will help you become more comfortable around girls if you are currently shy around them. You will also learn the sort of topics that women like to talk about so you won’t be stuck for things to say in conversation. Doing this made the biggest leap in my improvement, so much so that this should actually be point 1).

3) Invite your female friends on nights out with you.

Inviting them out on nights out with you will give you social proof and pre-selection and make you more appealing to other women. This is because the women are smiling at you and having a good time in your presence to other people in the bar/club around you it looks like they are attracted to you, which makes the other women more attracted to you also.

4) Commit to approaching 7 girls a week

Its better to commit to approaching a small number every week than saying I’m going to approach 100 per day every day and give up and never approach another girl again after 2 weeks. That’s why so many people fail at the gym, they set an unrealistic goal of going and working out 5 or 6 times a week and never go back after a month.

5) Don’t waste your time reading material.

Thirty minutes of talking to a girl will get you further than sitting reading 100+ hours of material ever will. I’m a big fan of Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu and I could sit and watch YouTube videos of Demian Maia, Marcelo Garcia, Roger Gracie etc having matches all day, it’s not going to make me any better though. What will make me better is joining an MMA/BJJ gym and training twice a week (which is what I do).
Demian Maia Highlights

Off Topic: I love Demian Maia, he’s one of my favorite MMA fighters.

Nothing beats real world experience. You’d do much better to take up an interesting hobby so you have something to talk to a girl about that makes you actually stand out from other guys instead of sitting around reading something that you’ll forget an hour after reading it.

6) Make friends with girls you aren’t interested in (or already have boyfriends) and invite them out with you also.

This is pretty self explanatory. If you don’t like a girl or she already has a boyfriend make friends with her instead and add her to your social circle. Invite her out and get her to bring some of her friends with her and then you can meet and game them. You have no idea what an impression it makes to other women when a guy walks into a venue with 5-7 girls. Women notice that!

7) Break rapport with girls you like

This will stop them viewing you as a friend. This is the number one way to avoid falling into the friend zone. Adam Lyons sums it up in this video better than I can with words so I’ve posted it below.

8 ) The simpler you make something the easier it is to do.

If you over-complicate things by reading loads of material you will make it harder than it needs to be and a result you will struggle to get the sort of results you want. All that will happen is you will get information overload and get stuck in your head and become confused, which will lead to those awkward pauses in the middle of a conversation where you can’t decide what to say next. If you keep it simple you will find after a few months you start to do really well.

I hope you’ve enjoyed and found this post useful!

As always, comments are welcome and encouraged. Cheers!

- Brandon

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Break out of the friend zone

// January 3rd, 2010 // No Comments » // Confidence

Adam Lyons posted a great video on how to get out of the friend zone. I’ve actually done this myself in the past and it really works that’s why I’ve posted it here.

One of the biggest questions I get asked is how to get out of the friendzone or what to do when someone says lets just be friends (LJBF). This video shows the way I’ve always done it myself.

How to Pick Up a Bartender

// October 20th, 2009 // No Comments » // Lifestyle

This is a really interesting video where Adam Lyons breaks down a few simple and easy tips to help you pick up a bartender. Good video give it a watch.

AFC Adam Lyons speaking at The Under 21 Convention 2008

// October 18th, 2009 // 1 Comment » // Confidence

AFC Adam Lyons gives a riveting talk on the three components that make a “natural” with women: Confidence, Abundance, and the Ability to Sexually Escalate. Adam also delves into ways to improve all of these traits in your own life.

The info Adam gives is always really good and very easy to impliment. I took a bootcamp with him last November and noticed results within a month of taking it. You can see why he’s been voted the number 1 PUA in the world.